I have such a heavy heart tonight, I just found out that a good friend of mine lost her sister in law yesterday to cancer. Those two were so close more like sisters than in laws.
It's just not fair dammit !! She was a good person who fought so hard. She left behind two small kids and a loving husband. Not too mention the rest of her family. It's devastating. I did not even know her that well myself and I am still feeling the effects of this loss in my heart. I know she will always be looking down on her kids and family, their guardian angel. And with time the hurt will hurt less for her family. No they will not forget but they will hurt less.
All I can say is that life is so unbelievably short, we need to spend time with one another. Love one another, live in the moment. You never know what the future holds for you or how long you have here.
One last thing; fuck you cancer !
Thursday, April 27, 2017
Wednesday, April 12, 2017
What to name this ?
I have been writing this post in my head many times but have not had the nerve to write it. I am not sure why I guess it makes things real. It is real trust me, it is my life that I live each and every day and it is tough.
My 4 year old was recently put on the spectrum and has been diagnosed with ADHD. She has trouble reeling in her emotions and acts impulsively. Doesn't sound like a big deal right ? But have you tried going grocery shopping with someone who has a meltdown in the middle of an aisle and people just stare at you because they assume you suck at being a parent or even worse when they actually tell you that your child needs discipline ( yeah that has happened ) ! I get anxiety and dread just the idea of doing anything outside the house but things need to be done.
I am doing what I can to help her, she sees a counselor to help sort out her emotions. There is also the Cando Clinic where I will be making an appointment, I am not sure what will happen there. I was told we will gain more tools to help handle emotions and avoid meltdowns. In case you were wondering no she is not on meds. She is such a smart girl with a great vocabulary. I am trying to cut the sugar down in her diet and screen time has been cut down dramatically. Whatever else I have to do I will trust me ! We went to the beach the other day, G and I walked to the water together hand in hand for that moment I had my little girl back. There was no screaming, no tears, no meltdowns and no anxiety on my part. I live for those moments.
Then I have my youngest with the "communication disorder". She is slowly coming along with her language. She repeats but she is not grasping what the words mean. She does use about 20-25 words still no sentences but I will take whatever I can. She gets occupational therapy in addition to speech therapy and starting next week she will be going to group twice a week. Just like with her sister I do what I need to do for my girls, I am on top of it.
All of this is all on my shoulders and it is a lot. It does not seem like it to some but it is. I have no friends. I would love to go out and have a good time but the girls are a lot of work so no breaks for me.
I ask the next time you see a parent at the store, parking lot, or even the sidewalk and their child is screaming, kicking, hitting, laying on the floor having a fit do not assume it's bad parenting. That little boy or girl most likely cannot control it. Show some compassion and understanding.
My 4 year old was recently put on the spectrum and has been diagnosed with ADHD. She has trouble reeling in her emotions and acts impulsively. Doesn't sound like a big deal right ? But have you tried going grocery shopping with someone who has a meltdown in the middle of an aisle and people just stare at you because they assume you suck at being a parent or even worse when they actually tell you that your child needs discipline ( yeah that has happened ) ! I get anxiety and dread just the idea of doing anything outside the house but things need to be done.
I am doing what I can to help her, she sees a counselor to help sort out her emotions. There is also the Cando Clinic where I will be making an appointment, I am not sure what will happen there. I was told we will gain more tools to help handle emotions and avoid meltdowns. In case you were wondering no she is not on meds. She is such a smart girl with a great vocabulary. I am trying to cut the sugar down in her diet and screen time has been cut down dramatically. Whatever else I have to do I will trust me ! We went to the beach the other day, G and I walked to the water together hand in hand for that moment I had my little girl back. There was no screaming, no tears, no meltdowns and no anxiety on my part. I live for those moments.
Then I have my youngest with the "communication disorder". She is slowly coming along with her language. She repeats but she is not grasping what the words mean. She does use about 20-25 words still no sentences but I will take whatever I can. She gets occupational therapy in addition to speech therapy and starting next week she will be going to group twice a week. Just like with her sister I do what I need to do for my girls, I am on top of it.
All of this is all on my shoulders and it is a lot. It does not seem like it to some but it is. I have no friends. I would love to go out and have a good time but the girls are a lot of work so no breaks for me.
I ask the next time you see a parent at the store, parking lot, or even the sidewalk and their child is screaming, kicking, hitting, laying on the floor having a fit do not assume it's bad parenting. That little boy or girl most likely cannot control it. Show some compassion and understanding.
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